Do you find yourself sometimes getting caught up in drama? Do you wander off on autopilot, trying to score points against others whilst wondering why? Do you have script-like expectations of how your life is probably going to turn out? Are you playing games to avoid dealing with difficult situations?

In this video, we’re going to talk about the popular theory known as Transactional Analysis. Transactional Analysis is a theory that examines the way people communicate and interact with each other. Eric Berne, author of “Transactional Analysis”, introduced the concept of games people play. These games are patterns that people use to interact with others, and they often have negative consequences.

If you would find it really useful to spot these games before they gain a hold on your interactions, this video is for you!

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00:00 Introduction
01:06 What are games people play?
03:58 Eric Berne, Transactional Analysis
04:22 Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication
06:45 Pattern-interrupt the game
10:24 The origins of the games: The family system
14:39 The longer game: life scripts

#transactionalanalysis #selfawareness #drama #nonviolentcommunication #nvc #ericberne

Here’s a real-life example of how our minds create stories that are supposed to protect us but instead stifle our dreams and destroy our wishes. The intention seems to keep us safe, but the result kills our enthusiasm or fills us with fear. This video walks you through a few well-understood psychological illusions that might help if you are driven back by irrational fear!

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00:00 Introduction
00:25 My aim: to help you gain some perspective on irrational fears
07:43 The potential catastrophe
10:00 Is it happening?
13:00 A tip for when you forget your thoughts are only thoughts

#willpower #thechoice #choices #psychology #illusion #illusions #fear #fearless #knowledge #consideredlife #stoicism #psychology #psychologyfacts #nomorefear

Do you find yourself getting angry or frustrated a lot? If you find yourself frequently on edge, easy to trigger, internally conflicted or pent up like a pressure cooker ready to pop, let me show you how to stay calm when life gets crazy. In this video, we’re going to share with you some anger management tips that will help you handle difficult situations in a more effective way.

Anger and frustration can feel complicated, and so in this video, I chew over the messages and feelings that breathe fire into our unpredictable demon!

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A prickly tree overlooking Canyonlands National Park triggered my inspiration!

00:00 Introduction
01:37 There’s something good about anger!
02:53 How bad does it have to become before you choose something different?
04:38 The message behind the anger
06:29 Where is your background irritation coming from?
09:12 The mask as a coping strategy. The grinning Cheshire cat.
10:05 Reality vs. expectations. Should I change reality or change my expectations?
11:31 How to begin.
14:39 Learned shame
16:33 We are the average of our peer group
21:28 Forgive yourself
27:40 Benefits of being authentic

#anger #angermanagement #frustration #impatience #pressure #fracture #conflict #conflicts #peace

People are intrinsically insecure. Men, in particular, hold a precarious place in society: they need to prove themselves (which means taking risks) or potentially never find a mate. But there’s something highly credible in owning your insecurity. As in so many paradoxes of life, the end result delivers the exact opposite of what it first implies. There’s so much power in owning your powerlessness.

A few weeks ago, someone wrote on my video that I was seeking validation outside myself and was essentially insecure. And that got me thinking, what a great prompt for a video.

So, in this video, I get real and address the truths behind insecurity. Creativity and beauty come from our vulnerabilities, as does the drive to succeed and the need for significance and connection with others. As Shakespeare apparently said, ‘All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players’. Who am I to argue?

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00:00 Introduction
04:13 Insecurities move people, vulnerabilities create poetry
08:55 Insecurity as Integrity
10:30 The goal is to know our insecurities and, in so doing, secure them.
11:30 We are each the average of our peer group
12:51 Every one of us is a performer

#insecurity #security #attachment #attachmentstyles #creativity #beauty

In this video, I’m sharing a fabulous morning ritual to start your day on the right foot. It will help you create an invigorated physiology and a bright and optimistic mental attitude; it will also help you feel more refreshed and at ease with yourself and the opportunities that surround you.

When you begin your day with an experience of gratitude and an anticipation of the wonders to unfold, everything that pans out can be appreciated through that perspective. It’s a great way to bring joy to your experience.

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#morning #morningroutine #morningmotivation #morningvibes #gratitude #wonders #physiology #peakperformance #performance #attitude #fishertowers

This is a funny/peculiar story. Here’s the punchline: I never set out to have faith, yet somehow, it came. How on earth did that happen?

It came when I allowed myself to be small. When I abandoned what I thought was me and chose anything else. When I started to dance with the possibility of what I didn’t know.

When you abandon your story, amazing things happen. Things you could never have imagined. That led me to find faith in things beyond my comprehension: it’s an incredible sensation I never realised I was missing because I was so sure of myself! What an oxymoron: reduce what you are sure about and end up more grounded in the unknowable. Find your place in what’s not you. Huh.

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00:00 Introduction
02:40 Faith is a handing over of my ability to control situations.
03:35 A running cry to the world: I love you!
05:35 I am a story, an actor in a game far bigger than I can ever understand.

#faith #faithjourney #religion #skeptic #control #atheist #atheism #agnosticism #believer

What’s the point of therapy?

To get back on track – and out of therapy. To resolve hurdles in your way, take a step forward on the journey of self-understanding, and progress once again down your golden path. Therapy’s role is to help you find or regain the skills and confidence to handle whatever comes your way.

In this video, I will talk about becoming your own therapist by gaining the tools, the mindset and the willingness to deal with whatever life brings you, confident that you know yourself better than anyone else. I’m referring to any therapy, even though I talk from the perspective of the one I know best, hypnotherapy.

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(If I look a little tired, that’s because I was up at 4 a.m. to escape the midsummer heat!)

#therapy #psychology #psychotherapy

My offer to you today is a meditative, hypnotic practice to share some kindness with yourself, perhaps forgive yourself if you feel that might be of benefit, and leave your baggage exactly where it needs to be. My words are intended to help you discover some of the truths inside of you, to the extent that I can guess without us having ever met!

You will need to set aside about forty minutes to benefit from this guided experience, but it’s worth your precious time 😉

As with all hypnotic inductions, please only watch or listen when it is safe and appropriate to do so. You will probably want to close your eyes and dive into the process.

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00:00 Introduction
00:51 Hypnotherapy is different from a YouTube recording. It’s collaborative.
05:25 Only watch or listen when its safe and appropriate to do so.
06:25 Induction begins
43:02 Experience ends!

#hypnotic #hypnosis #selfhelp #selfhypnosis #mindfullness #mindfulness #mindfulnessmeditation

Do you dream of making changes in your life but face obstacles in your way? Well, that seems to be part of the territory. For most decisions, there’s a price to be paid.

There’s a proven way to make changes in life, and I have a real-life illustration of how to do precisely that: my decision to start publishing videos on YouTube! This has been a long time coming, with much internal conflict around fixed ideas in my head, and it amused me how the steps fell into place exactly like the theory says. So, if that resonates, watch on!

And what a background, hmm? Just outside Hanksville, Utah.

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00:00 Introduction
03:38 The fixed ideas that blocked my decision-making power
06:10 The misdirected conclusions of the fixed idea
06:46 The inner conflict
08:47 The process of becoming ready to change and then taking action
12:20 A new perspective on an old problem
13:00 The *real* issue behind the presenting conflict
13:35 Get leverage on yourself to take action
15:00 Baby steps.

#lifedecisions #yotuber #conqueryourfears

Play full out. Be yourself. And smile! We all make mistakes, we’re all members of the human race and we all have off days. But if we lean into ourselves, rather than pretending to be something we are not, life can be fabulous. When we embrace our imperfections, it turns out there’s something perfect in there, after all.

This is a kinda tongue-in-cheek vid that I recorded when I was starting to feel my own absurdity. It’s designed to make you laugh, but the sentiment is *so* real.

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00:00 Introduction
00:56 Aiming for a higher vibrational frequency
02:22 Wise words from my hypnotherapy teacher
05:48 Musterbation
06:33 Luxuriate in your offness.
07:59 We’re not our thoughts, we’re our actions.
08:21 Cut yourself some slack.

Lighten up and smile:)

#identity #play #authenticity #authentic #moab #ownvoice #ownyourlife #lifecoaching #lifecoach #change #darkside #shadow #shadowwork #shadowself #darknightofthesoul #selfcare

I found a place to rest amidst the top of the world, overlooking Angel’s Landing in Zion National Park. I had set off early and had the place to myself. The sun wasn’t even peeking above the clifftops, so it seemed the perfect place to offer you a gift of peace and calm. Play along; I hope you enjoy it.

If you want to explore more hypnotic meditations, take a look at my website https://swisshypnotherapy.ch

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#hypnosis #relaxation #induction #peace #personaldevelopment #peaceofmind #peaceful #calm #calming #zion #nationalpark #zionnationalpark #angelslanding #bliss

Where do your fixed ideas come from? Let me give you the punchline: We either receive them from authority figures (especially our parents) or learn them from life experiences.

This video covers the times when we are most susceptible to suggestions from others and the stories we create that affect our future perceptions. So, might it be useful to de-hypnotise yourself?

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00:00 Introduction
00:56 Anybody can be your hypnotist
03:11 Your most important hypnotists: parents
07:20 You don’t know what you think you know.

#stories #hypnotist #parents #parenting #authority #family #familystory #personaldevelopment #changeyourlife #lifecoaching #authenticity #changeyourthoughts #loveyourself

We all relate to stories. We identify with particular characters and draw meaning and purpose from the emotions that the characters bring up inside us. But the great news is that we can turn the tables on the archetypes and ask them to help us with the things we are most stuck in. They can be incredibly useful in making better decisions. Sounds funky, and yep…it is.

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00:00 Introduction
01:25 What are archetypes?
05:12 How to fix your conflicts by asking your archetypes. Formulate your question.
06:29 The grounding process
07:52 Ask your warrior
10:13 Invite the magician
12:17 Invite the lover
13:36 Ask your sovereign

#personaldevelopment #change #changeyourlife #lifecoaching #authenticity #lifecoach #hypnotherapy #imagination #imagination #willpower #mindscripting #storytelling #storyteller #story #dreams #character #carljung #archetypes #heroes #mindfulness #archesnationalpark #fieryfurnace #utah

Forgiveness: we are frequently reminded it should be good for us to do. Forgive and forget, move on, be thankful for the good things in life… and so on. I’m not absolutely convinced that we should forgive everything, but I do subscribe to the view that in forgiving others, we help ourselves and do it on our own terms. So this video goes through the process of whether and how to find a way to forgive others. I hope it might bring some light to your perspective.

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00:00 Introduction
01:28 Suffering is pain multiplied by resistance
03:21 How to forgive others: look at the choices we all mindlessly make on auto-pilot
13:00 Self-directed anger

#forgiveness #personaldevelopment #whoami #change #changeyourlife #authenticity #lifecoach #loveyourself #utah #archesnationalpark #moab #peace #peaceofmind #mindfulness #acceptance

“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.”
— Carl Jung

In this video, I go through the process and benefits of exploring your dark side, or shadow self, so that you are free to experience all of what it is to be you and embrace yourself with kindness.

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00:00 Introduction
01:08 What is your dark side? What is your shadow? The origins of shame
05:48 The creation of the mask
09:10 Seeking validation outside ourselves
12:05 The Marriage of Heaven & Hell
12:43 So what do you do? Lean into your thoughts. Explore the needs under the thought.
16:42 Is the meaning still valid?
17:44 Some benefits of shame
19:48 Everybody benefits

Own Your Dark Side. Experience Freedom On Your Own Terms.

#darkside #shadow #shadowwork #shadowself #darknightofthesoul #personaldevelopment #lifecoaching #authenticity #change #changeyourlife #lifecoach #changeyourthoughts #loveyourself #hypnotherapy #peace #innerpeace #mindfulness #shame #whoami #stoicism #carljung #freud

It can be beneficial to evaluate our life and see how aligned we are with our needs and values. Just identifying what our values actually are can be an illuminating event! If you feel off track, unmotivated, lacking in mojo or unfulfilled, it’s likely you need to be in alignment with your core. Or more subtly, that maybe you are in some regions of our life but not in others, leading to a nagging doubt at the back of the mind.

In this video, I will help you identify your needs and values. Simple as that.

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00:00 Introduction
01:14 Human needs psychology
05:12 Higher needs
06:06 Introduction to core values
07:23 How to identify your values

#needs #values #personaldevelopment #lifecoaching #authenticity #change #changeyourlife #lifecoach #changeyourthoughts #motivation #tonyrobbins

Do you really want to do something but can’t get down to it for whatever reason? I talk here about procrastination as an avoidance strategy and how to question the stories that underpin it to get more stuff done. If you’re ready to break free from chronic procrastination, this is just for you!

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00:00 Introduction
01:07 Procrastination as an avoidance strategy
03:21 The catastrophe behind the need to avoid. Imagination always beats willpower
04:27 Protective habits as learned experiences. Pattern matching.
07:48 What to do about it: leverage (stick)
08:39 What to do about it: gleaming goal (carrot). Chunking down.
09:45 What to do about it: Find the feeling in your body.
10:21 What to do about it: Change your physiology

#soothing #procrastination #avoidance #addiction #protection #willpower #imagination #personaldevelopment #lifecoaching #change #changeyourlife #goals #changeyourthoughts #brycecanyon #utah

In the next twenty minutes or so, you can find out WHAT I’m rabbiting on about, WHY I’m rabbiting, HOW I’m planning to rabbit, and WHO I’m rabbiting for. It might put my words into context and maybe even make you feel warm and fuzzy.

I hope by the end of watching some of my videos, you’ll feel fabulous about being you. My philosophy is that we’re all working exceptionally well based on the stories, habits and fixed ideas running inside of our heads. I also work on the principle that all we are is changing and that, if we held the keys in the past to creating the perceptions we have today, we are equally empowered to create more helpful perceptions today for a fulfilling tomorrow. So my videos are all about questioning our reality, questioning who we are and what we think we’re capable of, how the world should treat us, whether any of it was ever our choice, and even if it were, is it still relevant to today. Lots to work on!

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#intro #introduction #personaldevelopment #lifecoaching #authenticity #change #changeyourlife #lifecoach #changeyourthoughts #goals #loveyourself #geneva #geneve #switzerland #hypnotherapy