This video is about the stories running around inside people’s heads, the ones that prevent you from going where you want to go and from doing what you want to do. They could be: I’m too old; it’s going to take too long; I should have started this before; I don’t have time; I don’t have the tools; or perhaps, I’m rubbish at this.

So here’s the thing: we can resist making change by being harsh on ourselves. It’s like an emotional crutch, a victim strategy that allows you to blame others and opt out of going for what you want to go for. If you (or a part of you) don’t want to change, your inner voice will give you a million excuses.

Your words become comfortable alibis that get you out of taking action. I give you a fantastic example from this morning, which might shed light on how we lend meaning to our experiences. You make your reality through the stories you attach meaning to and which guide your expectations. If you have a generally negative chatter, you will fit whatever happens to that. If instead, you have a positive, neutral or accepting chatter, a “you are good at what you’re good at, you’re bad at what you’re bad at, but let’s make the best of today” sort of chatter, then when adversity comes your way, you deal with it more constructively.

So don’t worry; you can power through these excuses of the inner critic if you are armed with the truth. If you want to change your life for the better, then start listening to your inner voice and start making changes today!

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#innerwisdom #selftalk #innercritic #innerthoughts #selfawareness

Have you ever really considered your inner thoughts, where they come from, and how and why they act the way they do? Have you ever asked them what age they might be, their fears and needs, and perhaps most intriguingly of all, considered where is the “you” behind the noise?

Clinical studies show from a very, very early age, infants are already playing out the roles of various parts inside of themselves. It seems an intrinsically human and relatable aspect to ourselves that we divide our thoughts into “parts”, each with its own persona. We identify more or less with each of these parts depending upon circumstance and the stories running inside our heads.

If you can begin to unmask the hidden selves and get to know them, it can trigger an extraordinarily fulfilling journey of self-discovery.

This video talks about the fascinating aspect of the human psyche that has become known as “Internal Family Systems” (IFS) but could equally be thought of like a city of individuals residing inside our heads who somehow find an equilibrium. I talk about managers, firefighters and exiles who each support and police our psyche in different ways and become unwittingly burdened by responsibilities they perceive as their “job”. I also show you how to unmask the self and to take steps towards becoming the director of your own internal perceptions and observations.

[The audio quality dips for thirty seconds between 06:50 & 07:20, my apologies!]

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00:00 Introduction
00:34 Its not really all about your dark side
01:45 How we come to identify with our parts
05:27 How parts become burdened with roles.
06:26 Managers, Firefighters and Exiles
08:58 We self identify with certain parts more than others
11:09 Identifying “the self” from amongst the parts
12:36 Allowing parts to release their burdens

#parts #ifs #therapy #internalfamilysystems #fritzperls #internalfamilysystems #internalfamilysystem #partstherapy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness

Would you like to improve your performance in some way? To further your business, improve sales, eat healthier, strengthen your libido, get fit, get more things done … the list is endless! In this video, I spend the first ten minutes discussing what’s happening and then offer a simple technique to fix it! Enjoy:)

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00:00 Introduction
00:32 Imagination always trumps willpower
01:21 How do you get your imagination on your side?
03:23 It’s easier in hypnosis
06:54 Follow the feeling back in time
09:56 A quick fix
16:00 Change your quick fix into a habit

#performance #imagination #willpower #hypnotherapy

In this vid, I will offer you a better way of thinking about and dealing with difficult people. You know the ones? They trigger a feeling inside you that probably has a sense of injustice and unfairness. It might trigger anger, frustration, or defensiveness, but it’s something that you really, really don’t like. As it appears in the story in your mind, this person is hell-bent on making you feel uncomfortable. They’re almost gleefully chuckling about making you feel bad.

Consider those triggered moments, and therefore, the person doing the trigger, to be a gift, a tutor, shining a light on the part of you that needs attention. The feelings inside us are caused by our perceptions, not by the other person, but they are informing you of a part of yourself that you are ill at ease with. And there’s an opportunity there to make better friends with yourself.

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#selfawareness #tolerance

Guilt and shame can trap us in our own vice (literally and metaphorically!). But here’s the thing: they can actually be helpful guides if we use them as a messenger to know ourselves better and take action. The problem is, that because shame often concerns unspeakable taboos, it’s tough to discuss. As such, we barely consider if we deserve the shame we feel; we don’t hear other points of view, and it just feels like “us”. But we can be badly misinformed.

If you feel overwhelmed or suffocated by guilt and shame, this video is for you. There’s a lot to say, and I will probably do a much longer video at some point in the future, but for now, I hope this might be helpful for you.

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00:00 Introduction
01:30 Guilt: I did wrong
02:04 Shame: I am wrong
04:43 Where did most of your shame come from?
10:30 Is the shame valid?

#guilty #guilt #shame

The beautiful location of Canyonlands National Park inspired me to record this little video. It’s entirely off the cuff, but you can probably tell from my voice that this place holds a very special place in my heart. I hope that sentiment stretches all the way to you as you play along with the experience.

It’s intended to bring a sense of connection and kindness within; if you have a particular goal in mind, then you can bring that as an intention before you start the video, perhaps writing it down on a small piece of paper and holding it in your hand as you listen. Enjoy.

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00:00 Introduction
00:44 Only watch/listen when it’s safe & appropriate to do so!
01:18 Hypnotic experience begins

#guidedmeditation #hypnosis #connection #innerchild #kindness #kindnessmatters

Are you looking to make a change in your life, but you’re not quite sure how to go about it?

Before you drop a whole pile of money on a motivational guru, consider this: the decision to change does not come from outside. It comes from within and comes along at the right time for you. You can’t push it; you can’t force change. It comes when you’re ready for it. You might learn ways to re-appraise your stories by reading a book, seeing a motivational guru, watching a video or seeing a therapist. It’s possible that you can change your worldview and, therefore, come to a new conclusion. But effectively, what’s going on is you’re making a decision that takes a split second.

You may know what NOT to do at that point, but you’ll discover what TO do as a learning experiential process during your journey. And you’ll see when you’re on track because it feels like you’re coming home.

Unstick Your Life! A Guide to Personal Transformation

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#lifecoaching #changeyourlife #change #selfawareness #changeyourthoughts #lifecoach

Many people know about toxic negativity: where focus goes, energy flows and so the more we focus on the negativity, the more we experience it all around us. But are you tuned in to toxic positivity?

Consider the possibility: The more you prime yourself with positive mantras toward future riches, partners, business ventures or other forms of abundance, the more you may be reminding yourself of what you don’t have today. What a mind-bender. What on earth to do?

Mantras can work if you habituate them into your daily reality, but if you often push against yourself, or your inner chatter is constantly reminding you of positive nonsense that doesn’t gel with your truth, it is time to take stock. The back of your mind will always identify an incongruent veil of nonsensical optimism!

For me personally, reality is always more congruent. I can deal with reality. I can feel it in my body, check in with it and check when I’m on or off track. You can’t do that with toxic positivity because it never had a hook in reality.

Make sense? Watch on:)

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This video was filmed in Willis Creek Slot Canyon south of Cannonville, Utah. Great for big kids!

#toxic #toxicpositivity #williscreek #congruency

Are you spinning countless plates simultaneously, desperately trying to stop one from crashing to the floor? Are your radars on high alert for unexpected events? If so, this is for you.

Because the only way to feel truly in control is to relax your grip on the need to control. Inevitably, you’ll handle things to the best of your ability, in the way that feels right in the moment, whatever life delivers. Holding a tight grip is actually counter-intuitive & exhausting!

This video was taken at Dead Horse Point near Moab in Utah. That’s the entrancing Colorado River behind.

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00:00 Introduction
01:50 The control freak as a learned response to a previous inability failure to anticipate
03:27 You are truly in control the moment you feel able to release your need for control
06:35 Regress to the time you learned the meaning and re-evaluate
08:18 The futility of trying to change what’s already done
09:00 Self-forgiveness
13:24 Benefits of relaxing your grip on the need for control

#control #fear #worry #anxiety #moab #controlfreak #fear #anxiety #parts #internalfamilysystems