What is it to find yourself in the process of awakening? To me, awakening is a never-ending process; no matter how many layers we peel away and no matter how humble we might be towards our sense of reality, there’s always more to ponder. But in looking at yourself and others in a multi-faceted, forgiving and permissive manner, your approach to reality, joy, peace, fulfilment, goals and the journey vs. the destination all shift in extraordinary ways.

These are my thoughts, and I’m guessing your mileage will vary; each individual will, I suspect, experience their unfolding uniquely. But it may help.

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#awakening #findingpeace #joy #reality

In this video, we’re going to explore what it means to discover your life purpose through emotional calibration. From creating a clear vision for your future to tuning into your inner voice, we’ll help you find your pathway to happiness and fulfilment.

If you’re feeling lost or confused about your life path, this video is for you. It’ll help you identify those moments in life which have shaped what it feels like to be you at your best and in so doing provide an emotional compass to guide and evaluate your decisions. By melding intellect with intuition, you can find your life purpose and start living the life you were meant to live. Let’s get started!

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#lifepurpose #lifepurposecoach #emotionalcalibration #motivational #motivationalvideo

This video offers you a simple, spontaneous way to connect with all that is you. It turned into a hypnotic induction where you can journey within yourself with ease. The induction is designed for anyone who desires to connect with their innermost self and experience a deeper level of relaxation, peace, and a greater sense of all they are.

I hope you enjoy it x

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#guidedmeditation #hypnosis #hypnotherapy

In this video, I’m sharing with you a technique I call the royal road to self-understanding: regression. This technique will help you uncover why you think and feel the way you do, and finally discover the meaning behind what you hold most dear to your core.

Regression is a powerful tool that you can use to understand yourself better. By revisiting old events and situations, you can finally start to unpick the chains that bind you and understand why you think and feel the way you do. This video is designed to help you consider taking the first step on the royal road to self-understanding and dispel the mystique around something that, at its heart, is relatively simple. and start to break free from your limitations!

If you’re stuck and don’t know how to move forward with your life, then this video may help you find a way to shine a light on what is occuring. All in the aim of understanding yourself.

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#hypnosis #regression #selfawareness

Would you like to identify the essence of your ‘self’ – the ‘you’ that lives behind the thoughts of day-to-day existence? Let me invite you to peel back the layers and ask your inner critic, joker, thick-skinned ram, storyteller, optimist, inner child, victim, and any other potential parts of you to just take a seat and let you see what lies beneath?

In this video, we’re going to explore the inner workings of your mind using guided meditation. By peeling back the layers of your thoughts, we’ll discover the true you behind your thoughts.

I accept this might sound a little strange, and if it does, that’s okay because we live within metaphors of meaning. But: if it does sound odd, I invite you to play along with an open curiosity and see what you get out of it. Because somewhere behind the chatter, behind the veil of your beliefs and principles, there is a stillness and peace at your core, and the opportunity to discover and make friends with that is too good to miss:). Jung’s archetypes and Internal Family Systems’ parts therapy are wrapped inside this video. IFS is a particularly fascinating way to reconsider yourself.

So when you have twenty minutes to set aside, join me and let’s peel back the layers. This is a guided visualisation, a mediation of sorts, to discover the true you, the eternal self, behind your thoughts.

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#meditation #hypnotic #selfawareness #guidedmeditation

Do you feel like you’ve been struggling to find the motivation to get things done?

If so, you’re not alone. A lot of people feel like they don’t have the willpower or energy to get things done. They’re kinda lacking mojo.

But there’s a solution! You can harness the power of your imagination and use it to give yourself a boost, feel great & get things done.

In this video, I’ll show you exactly that: how to use your imagination to feel great and get things done. I’ll share with you some practical tools for when there just isn’t time to dive deep inside yourself and you need to get more out of your day-to-day life.

So whether you’re struggling to find motivation or just want to feel great, watch this video

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#imagination #selfawareness #emotions

This video is about what we think we are, what happens when we notice our thoughts and how we make meaning in our lives. What is consciousness? What drives which ideas bubble up to consciousness and which remain below the level of our awareness? We take selective ownership of certain thoughts and label them, driving our whole perception of reality. It’s a fascinating train of thought that leads you to question everything!

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This video was recorded inside the fiery furnace of Arches National Park, very early in the morning!

00:00 Introduction
01:35 What is consciousness?
03:54 We never choose our thoughts
07:00 Rules of thumb that we use to get through life
09:46 Expectations rule our sensations
15:13 The danger in generalising

#ego #selfawareness #consciousness #reality #consciousliving #consciousnessshift #matrix #self #identity

I’m going to talk today about phobias and what I have discovered in helping people through hypnosis.

In my experience and in all of the cases in which I have assisted, the phobia has had an understandable trigger that was created in the long-forgotten past. The mind experienced something it didn’t like, recognised a pattern surrounding that event, and ever since, that association became the trigger to re-create fear as a protective mechanism.

I’m not saying this is the only explanation, but in my experience, every single phobia that I have helped someone with has been the direct result of a traumatic event and the mind’s conclusions: where their brain observed what was going on, linked all the facets of that experience into a conclusion and tried to box that risk in so that it never would occur again. By noticing the environment, the activities and the circumstance, by labelling all that as dangerous and creating a checkbox-like fear trigger for the future, the mind finds an effective mechanism to limit the possibility of the event occurring again. You end up with a subconscious or non-conscious habitual response which appears out of control because there’s nothing that you can do, consciously, to fix it: it is no longer operating as a conscious process and so feels out of control.

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#phobia #fears #hypnotherapy

Are you a bully? Would you like to stop bullying? Would you like to just feel alright in your skin so that there’s no need to have to bully or exert control of other people? Let me explain to start with what earth is going on.

Our bodies heal when we have a cut. It might be a little bit harder to swallow but something similar is going on with our brains. There are many ways that our brain can heal from trauma: the best way is that we lean into the feelings, consider and digest them, place them into their correct time in our history, process them … and move on.

The problem is a lot of stuff is not pleasant to process and integrate. It’s the last thing we want to think about. So we become skilled at finding ways to put bad feelings and bad thoughts in a box, locking the box and throwing it to the bottom of the ocean. We avoid. It’s possible we numb ourselves to the point where we’re not quite sure anymore of what’s going on. Whether your body is in hyperdrive at a certain moment, or it’s suffocated so that you don’t feel at all, we can all find ways to stuff down feelings. And in time, if the feelings are sufficiently uncomfortable to need to habitually avoid, they will be mentally repressed.

If you can’t consciously find ways to express issues which need addressing, your mind-body experience will find ways of acting out so that you repeat the experiences in such a way that you can learn and understand it. And that, dear friends, is where bullying begins.

Watch on to see how to understand and deal with it!

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#bully #bullying #bullystopnow #bullyingstopsnow #bullyingawareness #bullyingprevention #bullying #psychology #triggers #selfawareness

My video today is on the subject of bullying. Not a particularly nice subject, and if you are on the recipient’s end of a bully, it can be pretty horrible. But that’s why it’s important to speak about it.

In the video, I explain some of what’s going on in the bully’s mind. I’m going to explain to you what the healing mechanisms of the mind are so that you can start to understand what is going on in the head of the bully. And then, I’m going to give you a few tools and tips as to how to deal with it.

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Let’s start with a basic premise that your mind is a self-healing mechanism just as much as your body. The best way that the brain heals is that you express; that you annunciate your experience. When you express your feelings, and they’re understood, it’s the best way of integrating because you then order your memory correctly. When you suffer a trauma, and it’s not processed, the trauma is everywhere. It’s in the past, it’s in the present, it’s in the future, randomly triggered. When you express and are understood, and you can integrate what is happening, then the experiences that you had are ordered in your memory correctly.

But a lot of things we try to avoid. Probably the most important of those are shame-based because, by definition, shame is very personally exposing and vulnerable. It says, “I am wrong.” It can often be on taboo subjects or things that we think are so taboo, so unforgivable that we dare not speak their name. So you can’t go through that natural integrating process, and you can’t place that experience in the past where it belongs. It’s just everywhere. So what do you do? This is why I say that your brain is a self-healing mechanism. When you do not express and annunciate consciously, your body or your mind finds ways to act out your experiences almost as if you were the perpetrator so that you can put yourself in the shoes of the person who did whatever they did so that you can start to understand what an earth was going on and start to, almost by accident, process it consciously. And this is where the origins of bullying can be found.

But there are ways to defeat a bully once you understand what he or she is doing, why they are doing it, and what implicitly and explicitly they are trying to gain. If that resonates with you, watch on.

And as an aside, if you look you will see that I have also published a video intended to speak directly to the bully.

#bully #bullying #bullystopnow #bullyingstopsnow #bullyingawareness #bullyingprevention #bullying #psychology #triggers #selfawareness

Are you living the life that you’re prepared to tolerate? I find this absolutely fascinating and I think it’s very broadly applicable. There are certain things in your life which are really, really important, so you go for those. But then there are other things that are somewhat less important, and they still require effort or risk or the possibility of failure, rejection or disapproval. And so you go for the things which are non-negotiable. But when it gets to the nice-to-haves, many people stop.

So it might be worth asking: are you living the life that you’re prepared to tolerate? In other words, have you reached the point where it’s just good enough to stop pushing harder?

So what do you do if that applies to you? Imagine there is a rational mechanism going on behind the scenes, weighing up whether it makes sense to go any further or whether you’ve just kind of reached the point where the effort to change seems to exceed the potential benefit.

In theory, that would be a rational point to stop pushing, and so, as in so many cases (gratias, Stoics), the answer is to consider your life. Consider the stories that are running. Consider your evaluations. Consider the reasons behind your wishes to make things better versus the potential effort involved. And question, does it make sense?

If it does, but you’re not getting down to it, you need leverage. What will make to push through, get things done, and say “sod it?” And what’s the downside? What’s the worst that can happen?

It’s definitely time to explore the concepts of the stoics…

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#selfawareness #lifecoaching #changeyourlife #stoicism #stoic

I’m going to talk today about the indulgence of victimhood.

Learned helplessness is a way to avoid taking the actions and steps that you (kind of) want to take in order to live the life that you want to live.

Pain is universal. But suffering is pain multiplied by resistance. You suffer when you resist the difficulties of life. And for me, victimhood is a way to indulge in that suffering.

Victimhood is asking “why me? Why am I constantly having this problem?” A survivor doesn’t ask that. A survivor is always going to be asking, “Okay, what’s next?” because the most difficult people and experiences in your life can actually drive you to the most wonderful echelons of understanding. They can be your grandest teachers, but when you’re identifying as the victim, it absolves you of the responsibility to take action.

We choose our response to the setbacks of life. So if you find that victimhood is justifying your pain, justifying your lack of action, justifying your inability, then it might be worthwhile to take another look at that. It is a wonderful way of protecting ourselves from taking risks because of the pains we’ve previously experienced. But the end result is further suffering, and everybody loses.

If instead, you can accept the reality of whatever underpins the victimhood without identifying as a victim, you then give yourself permission to take action. You know where you stand, and you know the direction in which to travel. And it’s always action and experience that turn into progress. Food for thought. I hope that’s interesting and useful!

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#victimmentality #survivor #selfawareness #victim #selfpity

Are there things that you do to excess? It’s likely a pacifying strategy that almost works, kinda, sometimes. The problem is, it’s impossible to get enough of something that doesn’t fully work, and so you do it to excess.

Sound familiar? If so, ask yourself what is the need you’re trying to fulfil. Or the pain that you’re trying to soothe. Or the fear that you dare not face.

In this video, I’m discussing the perils of avoidance, hopefully helping you out of the chains of denial and those (un)comfortable delusions.

We live in a world where our personal worth is largely based on what we have (or don’t have) rather than who we are and what we stand for. We’re led to avoid the innermost thoughts that may be uncomfortable and instead try harder, chase status and buy shiny things. Capitalism is winning here: inequality is increasing; addictions and mental health crises are everywhere. The pain is on our doorstep, but the world seems to prefer its delusions.

In this video, I’m discussing the risks we bring by avoiding ourselves whilst the messengers bang louder and louder upon our aching conscience. Breaking free from these delusions is first base towards a sane and flourishing life. I delve into what happiness is, how shame affects society at its core, and how it is leading to many of the complexities and schizms that we see in society today.

It’s a difficult and complex subject, and my words are somewhat melancholic as a result. Still, it feels important to say.

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I have a much shorter video here on a similar subject:
https://youtu.be/siWE0YnG0KM

00:00 Introduction
03:52 Powerlessness in the face of an opioid fuelled mental health crisis.
06:10 The wide spectrum of avoidance strategies
08:44 It’s easier to ignore the reality staring us in the face. We choose what we pay attention to.
10:08 A little experiment to illustrate: Be careful what you look for
16:05 Shame and how it impacts our need to avoid
18:50 Cultural underpinnings
20:48 Capitalism’s impact
24:55 Self-awareness brings flexibility & the ripple effect of many small actions.

#avoidance #addiction #changeyourlife #avoidances #selfawareness #capitalism #selfsoothe #inequality #personalworth #status #opiod #avoidance

What’s the route to unlimited joy, adventure and massive opportunity? It comes from throwing away your rule book and getting flexible with what you think you might be. Come discover the joy in the journey!

In this video, I’ll talk about how to fuel your fire with passion and embrace unlimited joy. Too often, we’re so focused on the negative that we miss out on the joy that’s waiting for us. This video is about finding the things that bring you happiness and making the most of every moment.

Behind me is Factory Butte, in Utah.

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#motivation #selfawareness #changeyourlife

Do you find yourself chasing new therapeutic techniques? Do you find yourself thinking, if only you found the magic technique, everything would be good?

Maybe you’ve tried throwing yourself in freezing cold water, you’ve tried colonic irrigation, you’ve tried going to a spa at the top of a mountain, you’ve tried CBT, you’ve tried reiki healing and so on and so forth.

If so, you may be aware already that the outcome can have little or nothing to do with the technique employed to make change occur. The technique, if you relate well to it, might present you with a new way of looking at yourself, but the opening wedge is within your ability to permit yourself to look somewhere different, do something different, and consider something different.

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You change when you want to change, and when that happens, you’ll find the magic technique because it’s got nothing to do with the technique, it’s all to do with you. I am evangelical about hypnotherapy because I experienced that process myself via hypnotherapy. I was prepared to throw away the ego in that moment, so I found hypnotherapy to be an extraordinary way to go behind the veil of my own story and discover more. But the more you discover, the more you realise that actually your reality was a delusion, and that you were maintaining your state of affairs through of a set of rules, policies and procedures that kept you there. That’s why I can say with confidence that it has nothing to do with the technique and everything to do with your perception of your own mechanisms at play.

Therapy is going to work when you are determined to make it work. It’s going to work when you don’t know how to take the next step, but you are determined to take the next step. And similarly, therapy is not going to work, no matter what therapy it may be, if there are benefits inside of you, which may be conscious or subconscious, that determine your story and maintain your ‘problem’ (because to a part of you at least, it isn’t a problem).

#therapy #selfawareness #hypnotherapy #changeyourlife